Moaning and Menstruating: A Guide to Period Sex
Periods come with a sense of vulnerability. Whether this is how we feel within our bodies, our mental state, and for many, our sex drives. Even people who have experienced copious amounts of periods still feel insecure in regards to sex. It is not a secret that periods can completely halt our sex lives every month. However, as it turns out, period sex comes with a lot of benefits as well as with a lot of ease.
It is no surprise that periods have been around since vaginas have been around. During our reproductive years, we’ll experience the menstrual period about once a month. One of the main dislikes towards periods is the pain that comes along with it. Who would have thought that the releasing of a tiny egg would cause so much agony? With this being said, period sex is incredibly beneficial at relieving cramps. Cramping during periods is caused by the uterus contracting to shed its lining. Ouch. Relieving these cramps can happen through orgasms as this leads to the uterine muscles contracting and then releasing. Nothing sounds better than easing muscle tension during this time.
Periods can make us feel vulnerable within our mental state. Mood swings are inevitable and we can feel the lowest of the low in that three to five day time span. However, as daunting as period sex sounds, it can actually be incredibly good in aiding these mood swings and mental clarity. In general, sex releases good endorphins. Endorphins are the chemicals produced by the nervous system which help you cope with pain and stress. They are more commonly and notably known as the “feel-good” chemicals. Therefore, endorphins being released during these times can actually be beneficial for that time of the month!
Ok, so down to the nitty gritty.
Period sex is inevitably going to be a lot messier than “off-the-period” sex. This obviously isn’t for everybody. If you and your partner are wanting to have sex on your period but, don’t want the mess, then perhaps try it towards the end of the cycle. On the other hand, if you aren’t wanting the mess which comes along with it, then you could maybe have shower sex. Being in the shower not only gets rid of all the mess instantly but, it can be an equally fun, steamy time for you and your partner! Oh, and one more thing – lay down a towel! If you’re in bed, on the sofa or, on the kitchen floor – a towel is a must. It will make any mess easier to collect and clean up after.
This may sound a bit gross to people but, we’re all about getting rid of the stigma – right? Period blood can be used as a natural lubricant but, with this being said, it is incredibly important to wear a condom. Regardless of whether you are on alternative forms of contraception, condoms are a MUST for period sex. STIs and STDs are just as spreadable as being off your period so, to protect you and the people taking part, definitely use protection! Using condoms will prevent STIs and STDs such as herpes, HIV, and hepatitis. This is a super (if not the most important) point to take in.
The most common things we associate with periods are tampons, pads, and diva cups. Pads are inevitability not going to be used during sex but, tampons and diva cups are things you definitely need to remember to take out. This may sound like I’m stating the obvious but, I’m sure we have all experienced times where we just forget they’re there? Remembering to take diva cups and tampons out is definitely the first step in having fun, comfortable period sex!
As I’ve mentioned, periods can be pretty exhausting and uncomfortable. Some of us during this time are either in the mood for sex or, the idea actually makes us cringe. If having sex on your period sounds like something you want to go for, then missionary position [deemed the most “boring” position by many] is actually great for being on your period. Not only does it reduce mess by lessening the blood flow but, it can feel the most comfortable! On the other hand, during your period your cervix is lower and more sensitive. Consequently, deep penetration is something to be careful about, so communication is key for this: let your partner know if it’s uncomfortable and experiment with something else!
During that time of the month, periods in general still have a lot of stigma surrounding them. It is understandable that having sex whilst it’s that time of the month isn’t for everybody. This is where consent and communication come into it. If you are really eager to have period sex but your partner isn’t – don’t pressure them. As I said, it isn’t for everybody. Having some intimate time with your partner brings you and them closer together so, perhaps this might be a great opportunity for you. There are many benefits to having period sex but, all in all, it’s about having fun and communicating. Period.