Hookup culture was never really a subject I gave much thought to. What other women do with their bodies and what they feel empowered by is absolutely none of my business. Besides, I never participated in casual sex myself as I was reserving this experience for people I was in committed monogamous relationships with. Well, let me tell you something: things changed over the summer. This past summer taught me a lot about myself that I want to share in this article.
Sex in the public eye. Why sex needs to be talked about publically, normally, and regularly. Changing the societal standards around sex talk, and bucket list places for sex in public.
This article hopes to further dispel the stigma surrounding periods and period sex as well as hoping to give a little “guide” and “how-to” for people who might like to give it a go.
I haven’t been shy about the fact that I’ve never been in love. I dedicated an entire article to songs that make me feel this emotion that I’ve never had the pleasure of experiencing in my reality. With my past romantic partners, I’ve noticed a pattern: I’m in love with the idea of being in love, not necessarily the person I’m sharing my life with. While most people end up falling in love with the idea or potential of someone else, I fall in love with the idea or potential of us, which is arguably more painful in the end.
Read MoreBeing vocal in the bedroom can seem like a challenge. It may come off as intimidating and scary for some. But being vocal does not mean being louder in the bedroom. From hotter sex to a more intimate atmosphere to sexy self-discovery, speaking up can be truly freeing and transformative.
After deliberation on the hit talk show, The Real, the verdict is out: stop being a ride or die. While the media would like us to believe that this is an admirable, and even aspirational, relationship dynamic, its reality is far more detrimental to the wellbeing of women. The sad truth is that a ride or die is a misogynistic relationship norm that aims to make women believe that their sole purpose in a relationship is to be blindly loyal to their partner, even at the expense of their own safety.
I’ve been trying to be more sex-positive, I really have. I used to think that sex and “body counts” only included penetrative sex. However, as I’ve grown, matured, and explored the realm of sex, I’ve decided that for me, body count refers to any meaningful sexual encounter I have. Read my thought process on the concept of the body count and see if it makes you think any differently or if our thoughts align.
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Kamasutra, not a game, but something to try and explore — from wild-looking positions to the more “standard” styles like missionary, every angle has its purpose. My top positions for deep penetration and orgasmic endings.
In our patriarchal culture that eulogises youth and eroticises girlhood, female coming of age is exploited to serve perverse capitalistic fantasies. Thus, as epitomised by Lolita and Britney Spears, girls must navigate the labyrinth of sexuality before they even know that their sexual agency is being taken advantage of.
Read MoreWhether it’s Plan B or “Oh, shit”, the morning after pill has many names— none of which were taught to us by our less-than-adequate sex-ed curriculums. While schools continue to teach abstinence, people are having sex, and that’s where this little pill comes into play. It’s almost too good to be true…and in a way, it is. Accessibility to preventive care is a pressing problem in our society, especially in an ever-worsening political climate that threatens our right to reproductive healthcare.
Read MoreFriends with benefits ― regular sex with a person you're attracted to ― without any commitments. Sex with "no strings attached" as some like to call it, but let's be real: There are always strings attached, aren't there? What happens if one party suddenly develops feelings for the other and wants to have more than just sex? This article serves as a guide on how to navigate a situation like this, especially if you want to turn your friend with benefits arrangement into something more serious.
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Sexual intercourse, it’s how babies are made — and while pregnant we are told about all the beauties of pregnancy and birth and what it means to become a parent. For the majority of the pregnancy, the focus is on the health of the baby and mother, but there never seems to be any talk of vaginal and pelvic health. After I got the “okay” to start having sex again, I noticed that everything felt very different...painful even. Then, I found my guardian angel in disguise, a pelvic floor specialist.
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Here’s a gentle reminder from your friendly neighborhood sex writer: go see your sexual healthcare specialist. Even if you’ve never had a sexual partner. Even if you’ve had just one sexual partner— and it was a committed relationship. Sexual health knows no boundaries— and goes beyond the teachings of basic sexual education. Making an appointment with your specialist means taking the first step toward not only safer sex practices and better health, but also meeting your own sexual goals.
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We’ve all seen it before: someone posts a picture of their significant other on Instagram without showing their face, revealing just enough for you to know that they’re not single, but hiding just enough for you to stay out of their business. People do this for all kinds of reasons, but mostly to maintain their privacy on a platform that celebrates the over-exposure of one’s life. By keeping the relationship lowkey on social media, it often asserts that it is one worth protecting. But when is that thin line crossed where your partner is not trying to cherish your connection at all, but rather hide it?
Read MoreThe pressure for women to act easygoing in their heterosexual relationships is something that is normalized despite the emotional turmoil that often comes along with it. Plenty of us have been conditioned to feel as if speaking up for ourselves in our relationships makes us “needy” or “bitchy,” when in reality setting boundaries and expressing our needs is the healthiest thing we can do. If those things sound difficult, you might be a victim of “cool girl syndrome,” an attitude so many of us have adopted as a result of low self-esteem and internalized misogyny.
Understanding your friends’ or your own kinks and sexual preferences can be a minefield to navigate. It can be easy to project our own biases and judgments especially when it comes to historically taboo topics like sex, or--G*d forbid--kinky sex. My first exposure to truly kinky, BDSM-related sex was through college and the subsequent hook-up culture of my school. I initially found it difficult to discriminate between when sexual preferences could be applied to someone’s character; although I am still unpacking my own biases towards individuals interested in BDSM sexual interactions, opening up the conversation is the first step.
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“Here to do better than the instaDom mediocrity.” With his consistent posting of educational and funny kinky memes and Q&A’s in which he answers his followers’ questions, The Funny Dom (@thefunnydom on IG) lives up to this Instagram-bio promise. Mediocrity is nowhere to be found.
Read MoreWhen I was first radicalized at my small liberal arts college I began to notice my own shortcomings as an activist and in my peers—especially, in my relationship with my boyfriend. In this essay, I chronicle what I learned while navigating radicalization and my intimate relationships. Although I’m not an expert, I think opening these conversations is the biggest first step.
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For some, falling in love, being in love, and loving someone are some of the most beautiful things in the world. For others, it’s a necessity. The constant need for love from another person is something that I myself had to deal with. This article explores the concept of being in love with love and aids in getting over the urgency to always have a romantic partner at your side.
Eyeing that mesh chemise or cherry-red bustier? Treat yourself — whether you’re in a relationship or not. Lingerie is a symbol of femininity, sexual liberation, and empowerment, and wearing it can make us feel more confident in the bedroom and beyond. Sure, lingerie is no magic pill, but the magic it can bring into your sex and personal life is undeniable — soaring high above the walls of societal norms.
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